Saturday, November 29, 2008
Sunday, November 23, 2008
We went with a group from our church to Callaway Gardens in Georgia yesterday to see the Christmas lights. We all had a wonderful time, it is such a neat place to go. The girl's favorite lights were of Tinker Bell, and with the help of a little girl from church we were able to get pictures of them with Santa without tears. The Butterfly Center was neat, the girl's fed the fish in the little pond and a butterfly landed on Faith's head, which I'm not to sure if she liked that much. The girls also got to decorate their own angel cookie, and did a wonderful job.
Friday, November 14, 2008
The girls got to create their own barbie on the computer, and have it come out on the runway at FAO Schwartz. This worked well until Faith saw Hope's Barbie which was dresses like Cinderella. ( Dad helped Hope pick hers out. Shame on mommy, I should have known.) So we had a little fit in the store, until Hope looked at Faith's Barbie and saw it had a purse so Hope was glad to trade with Faith. Thank goodness, Hope is always helping me out.
Friday, November 07, 2008
Thursday, November 06, 2008
Update - This is the story from the NBC Today Show website.
By Rina Raphael
updated 1:20 p.m. CT, Thurs., Nov. 6, 2008
One night in 2004, Tara and Dirk Lindsey decided to go out for a celebratory dinner with their three children, Rachel, 10, Madelyn 6 and baby Yates, 5 weeks old, to commemorate their plans to start a sheep farm in Seminole, Texas. But fate had other plans in store for them: A drunk driver, three times over the legal drinking limit, struck the driver's side of their car, seriously injuring the couple, and killing all three children.
Rushed to the hospital, the couple was in critical condition for a week before comprehending the reality of their situation. “The medical staff did not want us to know [about our children]; they were afraid it would make our condition worse,” Tara, 35, and Dirk, 41 said in an essay sent in for the “Everyone Has a Story” series hosted by TODAY’s Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb.
When Tara finally woke up, surrounded by friends from her small Texan town, she knew something was terribly wrong. She recalls asking about her children’s whereabouts, and the silence spoke for itself. “It was all so crazy — I couldn't believe it was happening to us,” Tara said. “We weren't doing anything wrong.”
Still fighting for their health, Tara and Dirk couldn't even attend the burial. Instead, Tara’s mom planned her grandchildren’s burials, as her daughter mourned in a medical ward. “We were able to attend the funeral by ambulance and then we were brought back to the hospital,” Tara said.
Adding to their grief, the drunk driver held responsible — who recovered in the same hospital — never apologized to the Lindseys or acknowledged her guilt. “I just really want her to know what she's done to our lives,” Tara said. “You can't get them back.”
The driver received three life sentences and will be up for parole in 27 years. The mangled vehicle from their accident in now is a mobile exhibit for MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving) and travels around Texas sharing the Lindsey's tragic story.
Despite their painful loss, the Lindseys knew they had a great deal of love they still wanted to give. They wanted a future with children, and weren’t afraid to rebuild their family. “We couldn't imagine life without [children],” Tara said, who pursued adoption since she had her tubes tied after the birth of her son.
Exactly two years after the accident, they received a phonecall: their adoption agency had approved their request, and they would soon be parents of twin Chinese girls. “We went from a horrible day to a happy day,” Tara said of the anniversary. “In our hearts, we know what the day is but we try not to acknowledge the day in order for us to get through it.”
“It was our faith and hope in God that we would survive this tragedy,” she said of her ability to move past the accident. “So we named the girls Hope and Faith.”
Today, caring for their beautiful children, the Lindseys understand their new family can never replace their previous one, but they are thankful for a new chance and are trying to provide their girls with a normal, happy childhood. Photos of Rachel, Madelyn and Yates line the walls of their home, but they are careful not to overwhelm Hope and Faith with the family’s past.
“We don't want them to feel like they are in the shadow but we will never forget our birth children,” Tara. “We will always have that pain in our hearts, but you can live after a tragedy.”
When questioned about how many children they have, the couple answers that they have five: three in heaven, two with them on Earth.
After the Lindseys described their ordeal, singer Brazilian singer Paulo Szot of Broadway’s “South Pacific” sang an original song titled “Heaven’s Rope,” written by Kathie Lee Gifford and her collaborator, David Friedman. The lyrics represented the couple's remarkable struggle and perseverance:
No one can stop the pain from the loss
That you feel when you're torn apart
All you can do is hold on to
The ragged end of heaven's rope
Clinging with all the strength that you have
With your last bit of faith
Your last bit of hope
Holding on to heaven's rope
The Lindseys were the fifth winners featured in the “Everyone Has a Story” series, which will continue for three more weeks. Like previous participants, the Lindseys were presented with a tailor-made gift: Artist Rob Manascalco gave them a touching family portrait that included Rachel, Madelyn and Yates alongside Hope and Faith. “It was a labor of love,” Manascalco said of the artwork that took him five weeks to complete.
Holding Faith and Hope on the TODAY set, the Lindseys were thankful of the opportunity to share their story with viewers.
“This is our story of thinking life cannot go on, yet God had another plan for us,” Tara said of her strength to move forward. “We thank God everyday for giving us a chance to be a family again.”
Monday, November 03, 2008
----- and this week's story is Tara's!
A Mimi post.
Everyone Has a Story
by Kathie Lee Gifford and David Friedman
Everyone has a story
Different as night and day
And everyone has their own journey
Some follow their path, some wander away
Everyone has a moment that changes their life and then
Its suddenly clear in that moment that nothing will ever be the same again
Careful the plans we make
Careful the roads we take
Careful the hearts we break along the way
Careful the things embraced
Careful the time we waste
Careful the dreams we taste and toss away
Everyone has a purpose
Different as day and night
And everyone finds their own answers, some blinded by fears some guided by light
Yes everyone has a story
A beginning, a middle, an end
But if there's a god in the heavens above
And if there's such a thing as a thing called love
Then there must be a way for anyone's heart to mend
Careful the chance we take
Careful the choice we make
Careful for heavens sake, the road we take
Everyone has a story
Awhile ago the NBC Today Show announced a contest called "Everyone Has a Story" asking people to "send in their amazing, inspirational stories" and Tara entered. She thought their story was something she wanted to tell and if she won, this would be a way of hopefully reaching people with the message to "Please don't drink and drive" and that when your world seems to be coming apart, with faith and hope you can get through anything. She didn't tell anyone she had entered until the Today Show had contacted her that she was a potential winner. We've waited through four weeks of winners and this was "our" week --- they called Tara this morning to tell her she was the winner this week! Mom, Dad, the the twins are on their way to Birmingham now to catch an early flight tomorrow morning to NYC. They will appear on Thursday's show (11/6) --- the last hour of the Today Show with Hoda and Kathie Lee so be sure and watch!
While Tara and Dirk have visited NYC several times, this will be the twins' first trip. They have their little American Girl Bitty Babies and are hoping Mom and Dad will take them to the American Girl Place. They won't have a lot of time to site see but will have Wednesday to spend and will hopefully get a chance to see some of the sights. Mimi is wishing she was along --- I do so miss NYC and would love to be able to spend this time with them.